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Common Mistakes Newly-Engaged Couples Make


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I am by no means the expert when it comes to advice, but I have learned a lot over the years when it comes to some things you should or shouldn't do when you finally get engaged. Some may read this and disagree with what I have to say and others won't. Keep in mind this is just my opinion and you are free to do whatever you want. Every situation is different and what might be bad advice from one person's point of view might make perfect sense to someone in a certain situation.

Make Sure You Tell the People Who Matter Most First

As excited as you are and want to tell everyone right away, make sure you tell the people who matter most first. The last thing any parent or best friend wants to see is that everyone on Facebook found out that you got engaged before personally telling them first. Trust me, they will hold a grudge.

Don't Settle on a Color Scheme Too Early

Many couples will choose a color scheme before they decide on anything else. This may work for some, but there are several factors that need to be considered as well. Depending on what color is chosen, it could completely clash with the venue. If the venue is pretty neutral it won't make a difference, but if you get married in a ballroom, it may not look good for pictures or just in general.

Don't Get Your Head set on a Wedding Date Prematurely

Couples initial planning task is normally to pick out the wedding date, when in all reality, you may want to see what dates are available at the venue you want to get married at first. Some venues book up over a year in advance. There are lots of venues out there so you may need to check several to find an opening, but it is easier if you pick the place you really want to get married at first and then build the wedding date around that.

Make Sure you Book Vendors in the Right Order

Most vendors the order doesn't matter, but there are some that should be booked immediately. I would say the venue would be the first place start when you start your long wedding planning process. The obvious reason is because you want to get the venue you want on the date you are looking at. The second thing to book is the photographer. I am not just saying this because I am biased, because I am, but a good photographer will be booked well in advance. I already have over 10 weddings on my calendar for 2018 and unfortunately had to turn down several clients who wanted the same date I already had booked. Think of it like this, on your wedding day, you want to live in the moment, but you also want to be able to look back at your special day and appreciate the pictures your photographer captured. There are a lot of photographers out there, but there are not a lot of good ones.

Outside of the venue and photographer, you have more flexibility with the order of things, but make sure you book those two first.

Gown Shopping

Everyone wants to have the perfect gown. It is what we dream about since we are little girls. If your wedding is more than 6 months out, you may want to save this until closer to the wedding. I am not saying to wait until the last minute, but you want to make sure the dress fits. In addition, the styles that you like may change. What you liked a year ago you may not like now. Even worse, your best friend got a dress that looks like what you wanted and heave for bid your dress looks anything like anyone else's :)

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